Man of Transsexual Experience

Part of my wife Molly’s and my challenge of trying to conceive is because I am a female-to-male transsexual. I do not make sperm, so we were forced to choose a sperm donor and pursue some kind of alternative insemination method (home vs. in-office vs. advanced reproductive technology) to try to conceive.

There is so much talk within the queer and trans* communities about identity, I thought I would take some space to explain my choice of identity as a “man of transsexual experience.” What I specifically like about this identity description is that it identifies me first and foremost as a Man, then secondly as a Transsexual. For me, identity descriptions such as “transman” and “FTM” put the trans- or female-part first, which is not my current state of being. I perceive myself as a man, and the world around me perceives me as a man, primarily.

However, it is still important for my personal identity description to include the fact I am a female-to-male transsexual (note that I still use this term to describe what I am but not how I identify). Being raised as female has a profound impact on almost all of my daily activities – thoughts, choices, feelings, speech, mannerisms, etc. While I’ve changed my sex to male, I cannot change my experiences before transitioning – and although I didn’t necessarily identify as “female” during those experiences, the world perceived me and thus treated me as such.

The identity description “man of transsexual experience” describes not only where I am now, but also where I came from. However, there are many trans* people who do not identify as trans* in any way. This is something I may or may not do in the future as I view identity as fluid. For now, I choose to identify as a man of transsexual experience.

For more detailed information on my transition from female to male, please visit my website at

6 responses to “Man of Transsexual Experience

  1. Thanks for sharing your story, Ethan. I stumbled upon your website via!

  2. Thank you for sharing your story. Ethan, I had a great friend who was FTM; and I know if he were still on this earth he wold of loved your blog. Thank you again. Happy Holidays and have a wonderful New Year.

  3. Hi there! Name’s Jake. I’m a man of transsexual experience as well. I’ve been following your transition website for a while now, and have been using many of the links in my research.

    You say that being raised as a female has changed your daily activities. I think it’d be cool if we could compare and contrast some of the different aspects of being a transman.

    I’d also love for advice, if you’d be willing to share. :]

  4. Mariloy Fowler

    I am so proud of you! I am 66 and it is too late for me to change but I have thought about it everyday of my life!

  5. Hi Ethan, I found your blog through your wife, Molly. I am glad I came over to take a look and read about your experience! I hope that more people find your blog and that it will be inspirational to those who are not only transgendered but also to their families and the “hetero” community in general.

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