Part of my wife Molly’s and my challenge of trying to conceive is because I am a female-to-male transsexual. I do not make sperm, so we were forced to choose a sperm donor and pursue some kind of alternative insemination method (home vs. in-office vs. advanced reproductive technology) to try to conceive.
There is so much talk within the queer and trans* communities about identity, I thought I would take some space to explain my choice of identity as a “man of transsexual experience.” What I specifically like about this identity description is that it identifies me first and foremost as a Man, then secondly as a Transsexual. For me, identity descriptions such as “transman” and “FTM” put the trans- or female-part first, which is not my current state of being. I perceive myself as a man, and the world around me perceives me as a man, primarily.
However, it is still important for my personal identity description to include the fact I am a female-to-male transsexual (note that I still use this term to describe what I am but not how I identify). Being raised as female has a profound impact on almost all of my daily activities – thoughts, choices, feelings, speech, mannerisms, etc. While I’ve changed my sex to male, I cannot change my experiences before transitioning – and although I didn’t necessarily identify as “female” during those experiences, the world perceived me and thus treated me as such.
The identity description “man of transsexual experience” describes not only where I am now, but also where I came from. However, there are many trans* people who do not identify as trans* in any way. This is something I may or may not do in the future as I view identity as fluid. For now, I choose to identify as a man of transsexual experience.
For more detailed information on my transition from female to male, please visit my website at www.FTMtransition.com.