Even before our twin girls were born, Molly and I started looking into ways to ensure my legal relationship with our kids that did not rely on the validity of our marriage (knowing that in some states, our “heterosexual” marriage could still be contested).
I did a lot of research myself and contacted multiple legal organizations to figure out the best way to protect my parental rights. We ended up doing a judgement of parentage, and that was definitely the right decision for us. Recently, the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), in conjunction with the National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) published Protecting the Rights of Transgender Parents and Their Children: A Guide for Parents and Lawyers. This guide describes the legal landscape, recommendations, and advocacy suggestions for two situations potentially faced by transgender parents: parental fitness (custody disputes) and legal parental status (legal parentage).
I wish this existed 3 years ago, because this PDF is a must-read for all transgender parents. If you are currently a transgender parent, or you are a transgender person wanting, planning, or expecting to become a parent, please take the time to check out this guide and consider the recommendations contained therein to make sure you and your children are protected.